Using calm words can change an entire situation. You can take a toddler who is having a meltdown and bring them back to the peaceful little human you know and love. It takes practice and some Godly wisdom to get good at using these words but it does make a difference!
A soft answer turns away wrath,
Proverbs 15:1
but a harsh word stirs up anger.
This verse rings true, especially now that I am a mom. Parenting little ones is tricky. They need disciplined, redirected and encouraged, all at the same time. The words and tone we use make such a difference in the response we get.
I notice this more and more with my toddler. If I am short-tempered with him, he snaps it right back at me. It’s infuriating but I can’t be angry with him if he is just imitating what he hears.
Kids are like mirrors, they reflect what they see and hear. If I want my toddler to use kind words, he needs to hear them from me first.
I do my best to use patience when I parent. My kids respond better to firm, even tone of voice, with carefully chosen words. I’m not perfect though. I have a temper and when I’m sleep deprived and the meltdown mode starts to activate, sometimes my calm words get lost in the storm.
My son does not respond to it at all. He usually becomes more sassy and uncooperative. So I take a deep breath and remind myself he needs a softer tone from me. He needs calm words from me.
Calm Words
This isn’t just parenting though, it’s true in every aspect of dealing with people. We know if we start yelling at someone they likely will get upset. Patience and kind words will go a lot further in solving the problem.
Our words have more of an effect than we realize. Good or bad, they leave impressions on people. We need to choose our words carefully!
When we respond with a “soft answer” we are more likely to get the response we want. This doesn’t mean we have to be a pushover. It means we say “no” in a firm but calm voice.
So if you are tempted to snap at someone, your child, your spouse, a coworker or an annoying person in line behind you, stop and check yourself. Will your words help or hinder the situation? Is your tone going to set the scene for bigger issues?
God asks us to be patient with others and to use kindness. It can be hard, believe me I know, but anger begets anger. So choose calmness over a harsh answer. Strive to show God’s love and encourage harmony!
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